How I’m Learning to Turn Into a Positive Thinker

I realized that with all the the negative thoughts I was having, I was experiencing my life’s events behind a fog. Learning to become a positive thinker has been very hard, but I know that becoming more positive will lead to new and healthy experiences. Here are a few of the things I’m doing now to become a more positive, and happier me:

Learning to Forgive

I’ve learned that it’s not worth my time to dwell on things that are already done and that I need to become stronger in order to learn to forgive. Forgiveness is still very hard for me but it will allow for me to move on from both mine, and others’ mistakes. Happiness and positive experiences are going to be impossible to come by if I’m still holding onto to the past.

Being Grateful

I’m aware that learning to be grateful is key to becoming a more positive person and I work on it everyday by writing down 3 things I’m grateful for that day. If you’re reading my work right now be happy you have a computer; the internet! Be grateful for what you already have because I believe it’s a privilege to live this way.

Taking Responsibility

It’s easy to wish for things, but the first step is to take responsibility for my feelings and take the initiative to make positive things happen. With my depression and anxiety, I can easily stay inside all day and hide from the world and not feel like I’m missing anything. Yet, on the other hand I know I’m the only one responsible for my feelings and that yes, things can go wrong sometimes but I can make them better. And if I don’t like how I feel now, I need to take the initiative and change something.

Eliminating Drama

I’m not one for starting drama but I don’t do anything to stop it either from happening around me. Eliminating drama from my life starts with ditching those that add unnecessary stress to my life. I should be happy and filled with gratitude, not dealing with petty drama.

Surrounding Myself With Supportive People

Once I let go of those drama-filled people from my life, I also need to start surrounding myself with positive and supportive people. Making new friends is hard for me so I started out with reaching out to those 1 or 2 people that I already wanted more of in my life. To become a more positive thinker, I’m more selective with who I let into my life.

Setting Aside “Me” Time

As an introvert, I need time to recharge and relax by myself in order to be “on” and positive for when I spend time with other people. I take personal time to just slow down and reflect in my own thoughts. Sometimes, I relax through writing, sometimes meditation – just depends on how I feel that day; whatever makes me happy.

Thinking Optimistically

Thinking optimistically is thinking positively and I’ve learned that most things in life are for the better rather than the worst. When I have a really bad day, I try to think of what good things happened that day, too. This little technique helps me to learn to think optimistically naturally and have an overall better perspective on life.

Being Kind

Be nice to other people – yes, it’s that simple. When I’m nice to others, it generates good feelings for both me and the other person. Everybody wins and it’s such an easy way to start thinking and living more positively.

Having Fun

One last, but really easy way to eliminate negativity and to be more positive is simply to have more fun. It leads to excitement, laughter and joy; what else do you need? Since I’ve made it a priority to go out more and have fun in places I know I’ll like, I’ve found it a lot easier to think more positively, naturally.

What are some of the ways you try to stay more positive? Leave me a comment and let me know!

6 Things That Are Making Me Miserable

I’ve realized that I need to purge some of my bad habits and learn from my mistakes instead of repeating them over and over again. I’ve decided to conquer the habits that are making me miserable and here are just a few things that I’m learning to overcome:

Sticking Only With What I Know

I’ve realized that when I stop learning, I stop living a meaningful life. Learning about new ideas, even if I don’t fully accept them, helps me grow as a person and I get out of my comfortable and familiar zone. It’s only when I take initiative and venture out, away from the familiar, that I grow into a stronger and more capable me. I still hold onto my core values but I’ve learned to open my heart and mind to new ideas, feelings and experiences. I know that my own perspective will only grow stronger when I look at things from a different perspective.

Replaying the Hurt

Pain is a part of life, just like love, and it’s what make us human. I know that I don’t have to forget what happened in my past but I don’t have to let it conquer and destroy me either, over and over again.  Sometimes it’s hard to remember this but I’ve learned to go easier on myself and treat myself with kindness and compassion. One step at a time, one foot in front of the other and I will get through my troubles, sooner or later.

Following the Path of Least Resistance

When it’s simply easier to give up, it takes strength to persevere. It’s always easier to sacrifice short term pleasure for long term gain and hard to resist temptations and distractions. But – these are the things that make me a stronger person. I’ve learned to try and do what’s right, put in the necessary effort and keep pushing forward even when it’s hard. I know that if I keep exercising my strength everyday, I’ll be more capable and stronger everyday.

Waiting For a Miracle

If I were to always wait for inspiration, nothing would get done. Instead, I try to meet it halfway with dedicated action. I know that often the difference between someone who is successful and someone who isn’t is ability; it’s who has the guts to take calculated risks and to act. In other words, you can sit around waiting for good things to come to you, or you can act now and make them happen.

Not Balancing Rest and Activity

Downtime is extremely important, yet I know I don’t give it the time and attention it deserves. Creating balance in my life – between rest and activity, work and family, and between getting things done and leaving them undone, is key otherwise everything else I’m not focusing on, falls out of place. I need to learn to balance the various parts of my life to not only get things done right, but to be successful in life.

Ignoring My Passions

Sometimes life gets in the way but I still have to nourish my mind and spirit just like my body. That nourishment comes from indulging my passions because when I lose myself in something I love, I eventually find myself. A truly fulfilled life is lived by living out my passions and dreams and then losing myself in the process of making them a reality.

These are just a few things I do to myself to make myself miserable but I’m working on them. What would you add to your own list? Leave me a comment!