Stress is different for everyone and in my case, it comes from over thinking. I get caught up in analyzing my decisions so much that sometimes, I just end up doing nothing and feel worse. I’ve realized I have to dive right in and take action, so here are 5 things that I’m working on to stress less:
1. Aiming For Progress, Not Perfection
I have to remember that I’ll never reach perfection, and that’s OK. I need to focus on the progress I’ve made already and set goals for my future progress. As long as I’m seeing gains and improvements, I know I’m on the right track. I’m happy to be on the journey, I just need to slow down and enjoy the view on the way up.
2. Letting Go
Borderline Personality Disorder makes me a very sensitive person. Along with being awkward and shy – it’s a terrible combination. For example, after an interaction with someone new, I’ll replay the scene over and over in my head. I wonder how I came across, whether they liked me, if I came off aloof etc. and I can get stuck in this thinking for hours. Something that was so casual for the other person gives me a ton of anxiety. What I’ve learned to do is let go because no one pays that much attention and I am a nice person to be around. People do like me, I just have to be more confident in myself.
3. Being Focused
This is the toughest thing on this list for me. I always have a general sense of unease and sometimes I like to pin the blame on work, sometimes on people. I don’t know why I feel anxious and it makes me even more anxious! Trying to figure out what was making me stressed was Step 1. Step 2 was to figure out how to alleviate that stress. Try to bring the focus on the real problem and then work on it. You can’t hit your target if you don’t know what it is.
4. Being Kind to Myself
I’ve learned to put myself first because if you love yourself first, everything else will work itself out. I’m still working on this one but I’ve learned that self love and care are very important. If I don’t want to do something, I won’t. If I want to go hide with a good book in bed for three hours, I will. I know not everyone has the luxury of doing that everyday but the point is to do something for yourself everyday; whatever makes you happy.
I moved out of my parent’s house three years ago and when I came to live with my room mate, I brought only the bare essentials of everything; a few clothes, a couple pair of shoes – you get it. I pretty much moved out but left all my stuff at my parents’ because, to be honest, I just didn’t want to move all my stuff. The point of my story is I moved out with just the bare essentials and my life has been significantly simplified. It’s easier to make choices when there’s only a limited amount of things to choose from and it’s one less thing to stress about.
These are just a few of things I do to reduce stress during my day-to-day. How do you manage stress? Please let me know in the comments!